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Why We Compare—and How to Stop
A compassionate guide to healing the root of “not enoughness” Dear Reader, Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “They’re doing it better than me”? It’s such a quiet thought, yet it lands with a sting. In therapy, I hear this theme time and time again—whether it’s about parenting, relationships, career, or even healing itself. […]
Self-Validation Isn’t Selfish: Learning to Say “What About Me?”
Some clients come to therapy carrying an invisible rulebook that says putting yourself first is wrong. They speak of guilt when they say no, of feeling indulgent when they rest, and of believing that validating their own needs is selfish. But here’s the truth: Self-validation is not selfish. It’s a quiet revolution. And for some, […]
Can AI Settle a Relationship Argument? Why Logic Alone Misses the Mark
💔 Can AI Settle a Relationship Argument? Why Logic Alone Misses the Mark In the age of instant answers, it’s tempting to turn to ChatGPT or another AI to help resolve relationship issues. After all, when emotions are high and conversations go in circles, why not get an “objective” view? But here’s the rub: relationships […]
The Inheritance We Don’t Talk About: What We Carry, and What We Can Choose to Leave Behind”
Have you ever found yourself reacting in a way that felt… unfamiliar? Saying words that sounded strangely like your mother’s? Or fearing something you’ve never directly experienced? Maybe, just maybe, the emotions and patterns you’re living with didn’t start with you. 🧬 #EmotionalInheritance #FamilyPatterns #IntergenerationalHealing 🌿 #TherapyForGrowth #BreakTheCycle #LegacyOfHealing 💬 #CounsellingSupport #InheritedTrauma #FamilyDynamics We often […]
How to Overcome Your Fear of Rejection
Why Does Rejection Hurt So Much? A Counsellor’s Reflection on Being Human Rejection, it’s one of those quietly devastating feelings that can unravel even the most emotionally intelligent of us. We all like to think we’re above it, that with enough mindfulness, training, or experience, we’ll be able to rise above the sting. But the […]
Finding Strength in Community: How Mental Health Awareness Week 2025 and the New Mental Health Act Empower Us All
Hello. I’m Debbie, a counsellor based in North Wales. As we embrace Mental Health Awareness Week 2025, running from 12 to 18 May, I find myself reflecting on the profound impact of community on our mental well-being. This year’s theme, Community, resonates deeply, emphasising the importance of connection and support. Let me share a story […]