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COUNSELLING BASED IN Denbigh, wales
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When People Woke People up: What Community Loss Means for Mental Health
There was a time when life was held together not by notifications or calendars, but by people. The knocker-upper tapping on a bedroom window before dawn. The milkman quietly leaves bottles on the step. The postie who noticed when someone hadn’t been seen. The pub that wasn’t just for drinking, but for belonging. The church bell marked time, whether you believed or not. These weren’t just services. They were relational anchors, everyday points of connection that helped people feel oriented, noticed, and safe. […]
When Two Exhausted Nervous Systems Are Trying to Love Each Other
Relationship burnout, attachment styles, ADHD, and emotional exhaustion after becoming parents
Many couples seek therapy believing something is “wrong” with their relationship.
In reality, what they are experiencing is overload.
Why We Struggle to Choose Ourselves — Even When We’re Free
As a Counsellor in North Wales, I Reflecton Trauma, Attachment and Emotional Burnout There’s an image I often think about in my counselling work. A gate stands wide open. No fence. No lock. And yet the sheep are lined up behind it, waiting. Nothing is stopping them — except what they’ve learned. For many people seeking counselling or therapy in North Wales, this image captures something they feel deeply but struggle to name: “I have choices, yet I feel stuck.” When freedom doesn’t feel safe If you grew up learning to: put other people’s needs first keep the peace to avoid […]
How Counselling Helps Us Change Negative Behaviour Patterns
As a counsellor, I often meet people who feel stuck in patterns of behaviour that no longer serve them. They know the cycle they’re in, they can even see how it damages relationships or holds them back, yet change feels almost impossible.
Confessions of a Counsellor and Whistleblower: How Speaking Out Promotes Healing and Mental Health
As a counsellor and whistleblower, I share how speaking out against injustice and safeguarding failures supports healing, resilience, and mental health. Growing Up Without a Voice I grew up in a childhood where speaking up felt unsafe. Silence was survival, invisibility a shield. But witnessing injustice, safeguarding failures, and vulnerable people being ignored sparked a […]
Porn Addiction: The Hidden Impact of Pornography on Children, Adults, and Relationships
As a counsellor, I regularly hear the hidden struggles people face with porn addiction. For many, what begins as curiosity soon turns into compulsive porn use, fuelled by secrecy, shame, and the easy accessibility of explicit content online.