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Why Your Attitude Is Like Wi-Fi: Invisible, But Running the Whole Show
There’s a saying, "we can’t control the wind, but we can adjust our sails.” True enough, but sometimes we forget we’re even holding the ropes. Our attitudes, the quiet assumptions and expectations we carry, are like the compass that guides us. Tilt them in one direction, and life feels heavy and hopeless. Shift them slightly, and suddenly the world looks less like a battlefield and more like a puzzle you can solve.
The Trials and Tribulations of Being Dyslexic as a Counsellor
The Trials and Tribulations of Being Dyslexic as a Counsellor (Helping Other People Have More Compassion… While Trying to Find My Glasses) By Debbie, Counsellor, Human Being, and Spellcheck Survivor Let me start by saying this: being dyslexic doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means your brain has its own dance steps—some elegant, some chaotic, and […]
Healing the Comparison Trap: Reclaiming Your Self-Worth Through Inner Child Work
Have you ever caught yourself scrolling through social media or sitting in a meeting thinking, “They’re doing it better than me”? That sinking feeling, tightness in your chest, that old belief whispering “I’m not enough” is more than just a bad habit. It might be your inner child calling out from a time when they were told to be more like someone else. Comparison isn’t something we’re born with — it’s something we learn. And for many of us, it started early. Where Comparison Anxiety Begins Our early experiences — from family dynamics, school environments or wider social messages […]
When Someone You Love Starts Thinking Like the Far-Right
How to cope when grief, fear and division collide at home It often starts subtly. A comment at dinner, a meme shared on Facebook, or an offhand remark that makes your stomach tighten. Perhaps it’s a conspiracy theory about the government, a sweeping comment about “foreigners,” or a jab at mainstream media. At first, you brush it off. Maybe it’s just a phase. But over time, you realise something is shifting and not in a good way. Across the UK, more people are finding themselves in this painful situation: watching a loved one drift into far-right thinking, radical views, or […]
Why We Compare—and How to Stop
A compassionate guide to healing the root of “not enoughness” Dear Reader, Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “They’re doing it better than me”? It’s such a quiet thought, yet it lands with a sting. In therapy, I hear this theme time and time again—whether it’s about parenting, relationships, career, or even healing itself. […]
Self-Validation Isn’t Selfish: Learning to Say “What About Me?”
Some clients come to therapy carrying an invisible rulebook that says putting yourself first is wrong. They speak of guilt when they say no, of feeling indulgent when they rest, and of believing that validating their own needs is selfish. But here’s the truth: Self-validation is not selfish. It’s a quiet revolution. And for some, […]